Man with his hand on a woman's shoulder
I’ve got a few questions for you about your love life that will let you know how to make him understand he hurt you. This is completely a different way to approach your love life.

Ready? Go.

 

Q: How many times in your life have you been in love?

A: Two? Three? Four?

Q: How many of those relationships lasted?

A: If you’re single, the answer is zero.

Q: What percent of men is cute, successful, smart, kind, funny, compatible AND emotionally available for a long-term relationship?

A: According to most women, about .00001%.

Q: What percent of those amazing men also think YOU’RE cute, smart, kind, funny, compatible and emotionally available for a relationship?

A: Not enough, and rarely the right ones.

When you look at all of these things together, without any emotion, you’ll see exactly what I see: the fact that ANY relationship gets off the ground is remarkable.

To the naked eye, FAILURE is the default setting in dating.
You heard me. Failure.

Now, to be clear: I’ve failed a LOT more than you have.
I’ve gone on over 300 dates and committed to probably fifteen “girlfriends” before getting married. Which is why I’m not too fazed by failure.
You shouldn’t be, either.

Given that 99% of men are definitely NOT your future husband, getting upset when this proves to be true is like getting upset that you didn’t win the Powerball. Yeah, it’s unfortunate that you lost, but it’s also quite predictable.

Which is why I want you to write this down on a Post-It note right now:
“No man is real until he’s your boyfriend.”

A cute photo, a winning profile, flirty emails, an incredible first date, intense chemistry, mind-blowing sex…. NONE of these things mean he’s your boyfriend.

It’s not that you’re “wrong” to get excited about a promising man; it’s that, in 99% of instances, it’s premature and you set yourself up for heartbreak.

bigstock-Woman-Reading-405885-01Your takeaway is to not get too emotionally involved when it comes to a guy with “potential”.
Start getting excited when he’s taken his profile down, called you his girlfriend, met your family, and started making vacation plans for the summer.
The other bit of perspective I’d like to provide is that your last guy’s
disappearance shouldn’t be all that disappointing.

Sure, you felt disappointment. It’s hard not to take things like that personally.
Except for two facts:

1. This wasn’t personal
2. You didn’t lose your future husband, so why be disappointed?

Although your guy may have initially pushed for immediate commitment, he ended up having second thoughts. Reasonable second thoughts, I might add. It may not be popular to say, but if you were seeing a guy, and you drew the conclusion that you didn’t want to spend the next 40 years with him, you’d probably have to reconsider whether you were ready to commit. Your last boyfriend’s flaking doesn’t mean he’s evil.
It means he leapt before he looked.
He shot first and asked questions later.
He overpromised and underdelivered.
In short, he screwed up and ended up hurting an innocent woman.
No one is at fault.
And if no one is at fault, there’s no value in beating yourself up about what she did “wrong”. The answer is nothing.

There’s no value in getting pissed at your disappearing guy. He’s like a man who was driving 90 mph on the freeway and missed his exit. He was so enthusiastic that he was oblivious to the fact that he wasn’t really ready to commit to you.

Finally, there’s no value in lamenting what “could have been”. It’s over. Move along.
The right guy will come along soon enough – and he will certainly not disappear.

But the only way for this to happen is for you to let go of your negativity, to let go of your fear of getting hurt, to let go of your frustration at the men who don’t write to you online, and to embrace the unknown of the dating process.

Put another way: if you quit dating and men entirely, you don’t meet ANYBODY.
If you persevere, another cute guy might waltz in her door next week – and never want to leave.
“Never, never, never quit,” said Winston Churchill, and he’s 100% right.

Don’t get angry if you really want to make him understand he hurt you. Indifference will affect him more. The only thing you can do when things go wrong in love is to keep going.

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The Kiss - Closeup portrait of a cute young woman with her boyfrWe hear all the time how important it is to keep the romance alive in a relationship, and that’s not bad advice. There are lots of romantic things to do for your boyfriend, but to be able to clearly find out what to get for your boyfriend all you need to do is consider what he likes, and doesn’t like.

Guys aren’t always as easy to please as the sexy lingerie store ads would have you believe. Sure, many guys would love you to seduce him wearing some sexy lingerie, but that doesn’t mean that that is the only thing that will make him feel like he’s special to you. After all, that’s what he really wants… to be your hero and feel like he is your superman. There are many things you can do that will make him feel like a king whether it’s his birthday or just for the heck of it. Here are some ideas you may want to consider. Just find one, or more, that you think your boyfriend will really appreciate:

1. Prepare his favorite meal. Make a romantic candlelight dinner. You can have soft music playing in the background and both of you can get dressed up.

2. Get him a gift certificate for a massage, or better yet, give him one yourself.

3. Take him on a picnic or stargazing. This can be a great way for the two of you to spend some quality time together without a lot of noise and distractions.

4. Take him to a vineyard for a wine tasting event if he really likes trying and learning more about wine.

5. Buy tickets for his favorite teams next home game, for both of you. Nothing says “I love you” like doing something that the other person really enjoys especially if it’s not really something you’re into.

6. Spritz a little of your perfume, the one he absolutely loves, on his shirt. Not too much though, you don’t want his friends to tease him about wearing perfume, just a little bit so he can have the scent of you all day long.

7. Make sure that you always give him a warm kiss whenever the two of you are heading off in different directions. That’s another way he’ll be thinking of you all day long.

8. Spend some time playing video games with him. This is a great way of letting him know that he’s important to you and so is his happiness, that you want to be a part of the things he likes to do.

9. Put a love note in his backpack or briefcase so he can be surprised by it during the day. Tell him you’ll be thinking about him and that you can’t wait until he gets home to you.

10. Send him some flowers at work. Sure, he might be a little embarrassed but he’ll be more flattered than embarrassed and this is a great way of telling everyone in his office that you love him and that you’re thinking about him, and that will make him feel like a million dollars. Use these ideas to get started, but you know your boyfriend and you know what he likes.

HeartsIf you really want to know what romantic things to do for your boyfriend just figure out the things that he really enjoys and you would really know what to get for your boyfriend.
There are thousands of ideas you could use when it comes to adorable things for your boyfriend, but there is one that can cheer him up when he needs it the most.

To learn more please visit Girl Gets Ring and this will surely give you more ideas.

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